My generation sees the colour of independence by breaking the rules of nature and ancestors. My generation gets happiness by forgetting morals. My generation tags monogamy as monotonous. My generation calls cool to casual sex. My generation fears commitment. My generation doesn’t want to learn the language of loyalty. My generation considers patience as an act of foolishness. My generation wishes to graduate in sex before getting admitted into the school of love and marriage. My generation is getting modern by embracing hookup culture. My generation is happily letting the radiation of one night stand to invade their conscience. Sometimes I feel like is it wrong to possess an antique soul in this generation. And sometimes I feel like an orthodox granny thinking about what’s wrong with this generation. In today’s era when casual sex has been normalised, staying neutral suffocates me as if I am supporting it and venting my disagreement warns me as if I am judging it. But this contemporary definition of sex gives me a hard gulp. I don’t understand how this form of intimacy can happen between two people before living love and treasuring trust. How can one give access to someone to his/her body before a true heart-to-heart connection! How can a man lock his lips to those of a woman before crowning her forehead with respect! How can a woman hold a man in her embrace passionately when she has never felt a sense of fulfilment by burying her tears in his chest! How can a man lean on a woman when she has never told him how protected she feels while holding his hand! How can a woman let a man undress her before he succeeds to discover the emotions hidden in her heart! How can one negotiate with her/his long-accumulated dignity and devotion for the sake of temporary pleasure! And what kind of pleasure this is! The pleasure you are buying for your body at the cost of the permanence of your soul! Still, you become ready without any guilt because life is short and it should be enjoyed in the moment itself. It happens because porn has made you believe that sex is something dirty. Movies have shown you that casual sex is a fun ride. Novels have told you that sex without emotions is an escape from heartbreak. But tell me! What’s the meaning of physical mingling with someone before all your senses become saturated with the love of that person? And once your heart, your soul, your senses become saturated with the love of someone, you become immiscible to any other being. If you think that life is too short to wait for your special someone and to promise your emotional and physical possession to a single person, then dear remember that life is not too long for hopping from one person to another and losing a part of yours each time. Because in the end, you may find yourself standing at the opposite pole of love and loyalty from where there is no way back. How much the world may advance, something shouldn’t be replaced in the name of modernity because they are most beautiful in the traditional way. Making love is one such thing. Traditional means I’m not saying about marrying a stranger and getting naked on the fourth night itself. I mean to say not leaving your values, keeping things slow, having faith in the process and not allowing your fidelity to slip away. If you gaze at a newborn baby deeply, you will realise how nature gifts to two people in love and why you shouldn’t treat your body and that of others so casually without being really in love with other. Contraceptives are meant to prevent population, not to hide the deeds you do in the veil of freedom. Now some will say that sex just happens. Maybe, you are right. But if it happens with multiple persons randomly, then you don’t deserve to be categorised under the most intelligent creation of God. Physical attraction is real and sex is a need. But these things shouldn’t be arbitrary. Kisses, cuddles and coitus shouldn’t be random. Because sex is not dirty. Your love restores your sanctity while losing your virginity. Sex is not just for fun. It brings a sense of responsibility in you. Sex is something hollow or nothing at all if it happens without promising all the romanticism of your heart to that person, without opening the sanctum sanctorum of your soul for that person. Adulting boosts you with the power to distinguish between what is wrong and what is right. Still in life, you meet some people in the field out beyond the idea of right doing and wrong doing. That is when, you should decide how long to stay and how long to travel. Because social and ethical boundaries are not always meant to cage you, but are sometimes meant to give you a chance to halt, observe and move in the right direction.
I just wrote what I feel. You may disagree because views vary from person to person.