Smearing yoghurt

Saga of my interaction with that semi-known stranger was something like this.

  1. The night before I texted him, my mind had turned into a pendulum oscillating between should & shouldn’ts. Some Quora solutions were dragging me towards the north & some towards the south. Suggestions of Nirlipta, Ellora, Tanisha, Sweta didi & Banaja were dipping me in the pool of perplexity. Even my nervousness projected me to the height of horoscope. In the morning, I chanted the names of all the deities I worship & the mantras I know. Finally putting a fullstop to my confusion & without drawing more question marks on my decision-making ability, my thumb did an adventure on the land of the keyboard.
  2. I know that appearance is deceptive. But when you try to defend yourself by searching for faults in other person, you definitely find some. Maybe that was the case when I had seen his photos for the first time. His pose & his expression had already made him a tempered & serious man inside my head. But this time his speed of accepting my friend request & the humour in his comment box made me somewhat convinced that my interpretation might be wrong then. This gave me some courage to do what I wanted to do at the moment, by closing the guidebook of right & wrongdoing for sometime.
  3. I wanted to irritate him so that I could know the threshold of his coolness & weight of his ego. But he was smart enough to deal with my absurd criticism. Neither he bowed down nor he argued. Instead, he exposed my Instagram illiteracy. But that didn’t feel like an insult. He conveyed that in a familiar manner, just in the way a friend makes fun & a brother teases. My idea of censuring him acted as a boomerang.
  4. I don’t know if mami was an ardent fan of him or she was trying to lure me. But she used to praise him a lot as if she had known him for ages. That had sown some anger in my mind. But that anger had never burgeoned into my anxiety. That just remained dormant for a year & half. But now all I wanted to do is to prove mami wrong. An evil idea struck in my head at a point of time. I thought to take screenshot of the photos where he had sat cosily amidst girls. So that they can be used as evidence when mami will tell me about any guy. Then I can tell her that you are choosing such perverts for me & describing them as good. Later I realized that this thought was not my wickedness, but my foolishness. Because if I do so, I will be questioned how I recognised this guy as mami had never shown me his photos. But I came across them by chance while scrolling her phone.
  5. After talking to him as a stranger, fear & guilt invaded me so much that I was unable to sit near my study table. I was immersed in hundreds of what-ifs. What if he also knows me the way I know him! What if he will know about it one day!What if one day someone will do the same thing with me that I did with him! But telling him the truth had more danger associated. What if he will think that I sent him request to stalk his profile! What if he will assume that I am interested in him! What if he will consider me as a badass! What if he will tell these to others! What if babamami will know about it someday! A feeling of shiver. An end to all the anticipations. And the conclusion was that there is no need to tell the truth to a person whom I don’t know properly.
  6. Next day the storm of guilt hit me again. I opened the notes & wrote whatever was there in my mind. I told him everything. I was expecting that a stranger would keep this secret safe & would not judge me. I liked the way he understood this normalcy of the human psyche. But he must have got annoyed with my ignorance towards his questions. I had already said him many things for the sake of lightening the burden of guilt from my head. And I didn’t want to disclose anything more. At that moment, I just wanted to block him & end this thing there itself with the hope that God will save me.
  7. After all these things happened, a slight change in the behaviour of babamami started scaring me & bombarded me with many suspicions. But somewhere my instinct had a belief that he was not that cold-blooded to put me in trouble. Still one day another surge of fear crashed me & made me crave a confirmation that he had not told anyone anything. This time, he didn’t respond even after my pleading, asking & apologizing. My trick of ignoring his questions backfired me. I had no option other than vomiting the answers one by one. Anyways, his assuring words lessened my panic a bit.
  8. Somewhere I had listened that he is a relative of Kittie. But I was not sure about the exact bond between them. And this thought had not struck in my conscience before talking to him. When he said that Kittie is his sister-in-law & he could have asked her regarding me if he wished to, I was like whaaaaat. I was interrogating myself if there is a way back from this point. Although I was neck dipped in nervousness, curiosity & naivety took a toll on me. And made me ask & tell him some more idiotic things.
  9. We often see that handwriting of doctors are the inked curves which are too tough to be traced back. But he just types the texts so clear without any abbreviation. Even he elongates the ellipsis, a little more.
  10. Today when I was introspecting if I actually committed a blunder by talking to him, I didn’t find what was wrong with it. It was all about my fears, fear of being judged, fear of being blamed, fear of lowering the prestige of my parents. Nothing more, nothing less. In fact, I found some kindness in that person with crossed arms & serious no smile face. I got to know that the person who looks like a roadside robber wearing red shirt & black goggles also looks like a gentle human in black and blue. Before, I had remembered him as a nasty guy for whom my baba had once got angry with me & my mami had not talked to me for a day or two. Now I can call him a known-cum-unknown person with whom I had a conversation once upon a time.
    ©ruchiabhisikta

I have titled this post “Smearing yoghurt” because talking to him glossed my audacity just the way smearing yoghurt on the face cleanses it.
Hehe. Just kidding.
I picked up this title so that I can remember his complex name as long as my tibia fibula stay strong.

3 thoughts on “Smearing yoghurt

  1. SMiLes, Hehe, Dear Ruchi the Way
    Way Strangers That Are Female And
    Male Meet And Greet in My Culture

    Is Way Less Formal and
    Often With No Words At

    All Or Even a Look Backwards
    On A Dance Floor For A Face

    i Found Your Attention to Detail
    And Depth of Analyzing All the Nuances
    Interesting And Even Unusual to Find on Word

    Press
    ‘These
    Days’ Leaving
    me Wondering What
    Your Major is in College
    Or If You Are Already Working
    In Some Profession Although
    It Seems Tradition Says Ya
    Get Married Shortly
    After Graduating
    College Before

    You Go to Work
    A Career if that is the
    Path You Take Anyway
    Your Writing is Impressive
    And No one Would Ever Know English
    Is Not Your First Language For Sure Or
    Even What Country You Are From If Not
    For the Profile Pic and Name of Course of Indian Origin..:)

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    1. Thank you my dear friend❤️❤️❤️ I feel blessed to receive so much of love & encouragement from an elder person like you. Your presence & your thoughts on my blog always bring me smile on their own, still you never fail to wish me smiles. Answering to your question, I would say that student tag is still affixed on my head & my major in college are science subjects. I don’t know how good I write, but it is much less than the free verses you scribble with so much enthusiasm at 62.
      Lastly I wish you to meet with your dark haired ladyluck on dance floor, in the next birth. He he

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      1. SMiLes Dear Ruchi i’ve
        Already Had So Many
        Rebirths in This Life
        Surely it’s Not An
        Only Life For
        Love Eternal
        With SMiles
        Thanks For
        All Your
        Sweet
        And Kind
        Wishes As
        Kindness Spreads
        Forever Now As

        Love

        Surely

        Does With
        SMiles Wishing
        You All The MaGiC

        Love

        Dances
        Sings Free
        Dear FRiEnD☺️❤️🏝

        Student of Life
        Eternally i Am
        Now Too Science

        And Art True of Love🙏

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