All men don’t deserve blame

When media feed my mind with the incidents of rapes, domestic violence, & acid attacks, when in front of me surrounding places a platter of cases on eve-teasing, bullying & body shaming, when my heart gets empty seeing the torment of my girlfriends after being ditched for no reason by their undeserving boyfriends, then I don’t find a way without gulping the not-so-infamous sentence “All men are dogs”. I convince my conscience that the mentality & intentions of men are cheap & crooked which can never be straightened for good. I start to doubt myself for trusting the men around me & inside my head. But how can that sentence, that notion chew my belief when I have seen my father behaving his female colleagues with the utmost respect when I have seen him treating my mother like a monarch! How can that notion melt inside my mind when on the faces of my brothers I have seen the hesitation for staying long & overconsciousness for not making anyone uncomfortable during crossing a crowd of females, when I have seen my brother-in-laws making my sisters feel comfortable & fortunate after completely arranged marriages! How can that notion absorb the elixir of my trust when I have seen guilt grasping the man I admire after just saying zero size figure in front me, when I have seen him strengthening me mentally during my period cramps! How can I digest that notion when I have seen my guy friends standing for long to leave seats for girls in a congested place & not leaving until all girls come back during a visit to an unknown place. How can that notion churn my hope in humanity when I have seen my fellow male writers making me aware of the frauds bothering women & when the ink of their pens drop to enhance the women empowerment! How can I propel that notion deep inside my heart when I have seen the doctor in front of whom I once feared to uplift my dress treating female patients so genuinely when I have seen the security dada of our hostel not taking rest in spite of illness just for the sake of our safety! How can that notion continue peristalsis in my mindset when I have seen the driver uncle who drove in a crowded long route after guessing my fright without being concerned about his petrol & time, when I have seen my school guruji bandaging my wound with immense care & my coaching sir being extra careful about his hand movements after an unintentional hand to hand contact while clearing a doubt! How can I change my gratitude into hatred when I have seen goodness dripping from the personalities of many men I know! I think it’s completely lame to throw the mud of blame on a particular gender for the fault of some. Does the crime of some rubbish people of their gender thrust them into the pit of suspicion, don’t they deserve to be treated like good humans! One just needs to possess the right sense of distinguishing.
Biology teaches that it’s the high testosterone that makes a human a man, different from a woman. But who the hell fill the heads of many men that a woman’s body is all about discovering the underneath of bra straps & penetrating inside the panty! How can they forget that they are grown up to this age after being blessed by a vagina & a pair of breasts! If they aren’t feeling grateful for their origins, if they aren’t feeling guilty before committing such heinous crimes, then they aren’t dogs. Because dogs are faithful & these culprits shatter the faith of women in men, in human beings. They are demons meant to be eradicated from the world. They are dust meant to be wiped away from society.
Lastly, let me tell that all aren’t same. So all men don’t deserve blame. ©ruchiabhisikta

40 thoughts on “All men don’t deserve blame

  1. If all Men Got Wiped Out Then Women Will Not Survive Either. There’s a Penis also Which Bless Women,Which Secure Them & Help Them In The Most Vulnerable Time – Childhood. It’s Easy To Say That All Men Rape & Then Washing Hands With all Men are Not Same. Look Beyond Media. Truth Is Not What Is Shown. Before Eradication of Men Please Think about Fathers,Sons, Brothers,Lovers, Friends & Husbands Of Women also.

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    1. I think you don’t get the point what I have written. I am talking about punishing the culprits instead of defaming the whole gender. Indeed I appreciate the roles of men in the society & accept the fact that without them world is incomplete & impossible.

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      1. I agree With You But I was Talking about The Ideology Behind This Kind Of Mindset. It Wasn’t about Your Words But Words Of The Peoples about whom you have Written. I am talking about The Women who say that all Men Rape.

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      2. Maybe because society has made them believe like that. Women should feel safe first in their surroundings. The role of every men around the globe is important to eradicate such crimes because ofcourse women trust men.

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  2. I agree with you ruchiabhisikta. All men don’t deserve blame and its not rational to defame the whole gender. All genders are equal in this world only their personal characters made them as good or bad.your words are too good. Stay happy😊

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    1. Indeed boys aren’t bad. When boys treat girls good, girls treat boys better. It’s impossible to imagine a world without contribution of both. So goodness should be appriciated not on gender basis, but on humanity basis☺

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  3. Thank you for writing this post– this is a message so many people need to hear. I had a conversation with my friend about this and it was so hard trying to convince her that men shouldn’t be blamed for everything! 😟

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    1. Indeed it is obvious for a woman to suspect every men around her when such crimes are increasing day by day. But a gender shouldn’t be defames for few people. Women are understanding enough. So your friend will definitely accept that all men are not bad. You should be sure to always to make her feel that😊

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  4. The way you’ve portrayed it Ruchi did bring emotions to my tongue, gulping it down is quite a tough thing I must admit. It’s just brilliant. Not every man out there deserves to be blamed. Keep up the good work. Much appreciated 🙂

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  5. “So now I’m going to forget the 400 years of lynching and killing and raping  and depriving my people of freedom and justice and equality…  and I’m gonna look at two or three white people who are trying to do right and ignore the million trying to kill me?  I’m not that big of a fool.” Boxer Mohammad Ali in an interview on racism.
    I think the same way, men should take it seriously when a woman is screaming about how all men are bad. Because most of them just are! Instead of claiming brownie points on behalf of one or two good men, lets not forget what a great deal of bad has being done to women. Nice thoughts anyway. 👏🏻

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  6. An excellent series of musings! And you are correct. We only have to consider ourselves animals to view the actions of society outliers (men and women) as even possible. I cannot even comprehend the extreme behaviours when I myself will sidestep to avoid crushing any insect.
    The best we can hope for in life is that we encounter the good souls to vastly outnumber the bad… yet it is often the bad we remember longest….

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